Meet Me Halfway

It's that time of year again. For college seniors, the big time decisions that have been put off since freshman year, the inevitable choices that once seemed so distant and so intangible, can no longer be ignored. A career and the transition to adulthood beyond the sheltered confines of college life are enough to make any young graduate shake in their cap and gown. Even more frightening? Factoring love into this whirlwind experience.

At the top of any graduate's "To Do" list is finding a job. For most, the fragile fantasy of obtaining the dream position is shattered upon entering the real world, and the instant dose of reality sends shock waves that leave newcomers reeling.  They realize that maybe it won't be so easy after all.  With all the drama of securing a career, where does love fit in?

This turning point is sure to test the strength of any relationship, as love and individual pursuits battle for priority.  While graduation is a fresh start, I wonder if love is enough to outweigh the changes that come with chasing life long goals. Can something old fit with something new?

My theory is that a person will never truly be happy if they sacrifice one for the other.  The fulfillment of personal goals will not feel as rewarding if someone you love is given up along the way.  On the other hand, two people will never be complete when together, if they feel incomplete when apart.  There must be a balance between happiness individually and happiness as a couple.

It is possible to follow your dreams and to keep the man of your dreams.  This comes with its own challenges, but compromise is key. Who says that you can't have both?

This statement may be the product of too many childhood years spent watching fairy tale movies, but my belief is that a woman can be her own knight in shining armor and still find her prince. She can be career driven and successful. She can be hopelessly in love. At the crossroads of "Me" and "Us", it's not always a one way street.

Some may find opportunity more satisfying than sharing their success with someone that they love. Others may find success in a lasting relationship. For me, why not have it both ways? 

My words of advice when in this trying situation: Meet me halfway.