Liar Liar...

What's worse than being lied to is knowing that you're being lied to, and more often that not, we end up lying to ourselves.  It's impossible to shake that empty feeling in your stomach that tells you something is wrong, and despite his protests, that feeling doesn't go away.  If men are telling lies, or if we believe men are telling lies, how are we ever supposed to trust them and have a properly functioning relationship? What kind of a lie makes the jump from a white lie to a serious issue, and should lying be forgiven?

I've had that heart pounding, stomach dropping feeling before, and in my experience, it means trouble. As much as our minds try to mask the warning signs, our bodies seem to be better at manifesting how we truly feel. Women have an innate sense of security, and when we feel it has been breeched, our bodies react to the inner workings of our minds (as much as we try to cover up our doubts).  Trust is one of the most important things in any relationship.  We should feel happy, safe and secure.  The creeping paranoia that comes with mistrust will only consume our lives if we don't respond to it.

I believe that lying of any kind should not be tolerated, and while I'm not saying to break up with someone because of a small, inconsequential lie (hey, we've all done it), I am saying that lying should not be so easily forgiven. Let him know that his little white lie was hurtful, and watch closely to ensure that those little white lies don't become frequent, or worse, develop into something bigger.

Any relationship that makes you feel on edge, crazy or physically sick is never a good one. Blame should not solely be placed on another, but also on yourself. These symptoms are a product of our own level of comfort and trust. So the next time your boyfriend goes out with his friends and you spend the whole night tossing and turing over what he's doing, take a minute to think about why you are feeling this way and if you want to continue to be with someone who makes you feel this way.  An even more difficult task: figuring out whether there really is an issue or if your insecurities are the culprit.

You will find someone that brings you that overwhelming sense of contentment without sacrificing your sanity. You should love him, but keep in mind that you should also love you and that your happiness as an individual comes first. Breaking up may lead to a few months of pain, but it will also free you from that crippling mental and physical exhaustion that could last for much longer.