Women are programmed to attack when they feel that their man is pulling back. We automatically question and cling to ensure that we resolve the problem, and while we may think that our prompt response may reel him back in, our overly attentive behavior can have the opposite effect.
It's instinctive to drown him in affection to compensate for his distant behavior, but sometimes space is the answer. While men may think nothing of kicking back and watching the game instead of hanging out with their girlfriend, women tend to take this to heart. They fail to realize that in order to be desired, they need to allow room for that desire to grow.
Suffocating him 24/7 eliminates any chance for him to miss you. Time apart to do your own thing will stretch the bond that you two share, and once you both feel the tug, you will pull yourselves back together. This is called the "Rubber Band" effect.
Relationships need this push and pull aspect that is brought on by time apart. There is such a thing as too much time apart that could dissolve any connection, but think of the perfect amount of space as the kind that allows you to still do the things you love while being in love. A night out with the girls, a day out shopping, a jog in the morning are all little things that can give you time to yourself without detracting from your relationship.
This space should not be confused with "break" in any way. A break is a set up for people who refuse to admit that a relationship has ended. Breaks are bad, space is good.
Yes, there is such a thing as too much of a good thing. Spending every second together can result in boredom, a lack of interest and a loss of excitement. The next time he wants to be alone, don't go crazy over his need for space. Remember that it is a necessary ingredient in any healthy relationship, and will keep your spark alive.
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